At first glance, our wedding probably looked quite traditional – I had the big white dress, it was held at a sprawling English countryside location and our colour scheme was more pastel than rainbows and glitter. But there were lots of non-traditional elements that we’re so glad we incorporated, as they helped to make the day a true reflection of us. Here are details about just a few of those choices, along with photos from our incredible photographer Sarah Horton!
One quick note: apologies for the radio silence here on my blog. I started writing this post weeks and weeks ago, when I was sat with my wrist in a cast after breaking it and having surgery in Turkey – it’s a long story which I’ll be talking about in a video soon. I’m much better now and getting back to normal, but I still have a lot to catch up on. For now, I hope you enjoy this post!
I Did A Speech (And So Did My Mum!)
In my mind, there was never any doubt that I’d do a speech at our wedding. I don’t think I’ve ever sat down quietly without talking in my entire life, so I wasn’t about to start after becoming a Mrs! I loosely planned what I was going to say, but once I began it just started flowing – without intending to, I ended up making everyone cry and was lovingly told off by several more reserved friends and family members for bringing them to (happy) tears!
My fabulous mum also spoke which I just loved, and I’ll never forget her amazing words to Tiz and I. We divided the speeches into two halves – before the meal my dad, Tiz and his Best Man spoke, then afterwards my stepdad, my mum and I took turns. I love the way we organised it and I’d do it again in a heartbeat!
My Dad Didn’t ‘Give Me Away’
Whilst my dad walked with me down the aisle, he didn’t ‘give me away’ in the traditional sense. It wasn’t something I wanted to be included in the ceremony wording as it feels so strange to me – my dad has always encouraged my sister and I to be strong, independent people and for him to verbally ‘give me’ to my almost-husband would have been odd and jarring to us.
Another non-traditional part of the day my dad and I loved was our version of the ‘father and daughter dance’. Rather than swaying along to something cheesy after the first dance, we decided to do things our way and got everyone onto the floor before leading a huge dance-along to, wait for it…Limp Bizkit’s Rollin’ (they’re of our favourite bands!) It was epic, we loved it!
A Rock n Roll Guestbook
As soon as I saw this rock n roll guestbook alternative I knew we HAD to do it! I bought a white guitar and a Sharpie and gave my sister the task of getting all of our guests to sign it – my plan is to display it on the wall in my office, as the finished result looked completely badass. As some of you will know, I started my entire online presence on the music side of things, posting videos with my old band and singing on my music channel. I’m hugely into my rock and metal, and although Tiz isn’t as fussed he loved this addition to our day as much as I did.
We did also have a paper guest book for longer messages (which proved to be HILARIOUS, as most people writing in it were completely smashed by the end of the night, haha!) but the guitar is something that will always be extra special to us.
Our Quirky, Geeky Cake
There was no way we could have a normal wedding cake – for one, neither of us are big fans of traditional wedding cakes, but more importantly it felt like the perfect chance to give our guests a little surprise! Tiz and I are both huge geeks, and whilst he managed to persuade me that an entire Game of Thrones-themed wedding wouldn’t be the best idea long-term, I wanted Westeros to feature within the cake. He felt the same way about his own geeky faves (I vetoed a superhero themed day, haha!) so he got to include those, too!
From the front our cake did look traditional (Debbie from Lois’s Little Cake Company did an incredible job on the entire cake!) but it was the surprise reveal at the back that got everyone talking! We based it on Tiz’s love of Lego, mixed with awesome Lego figures (check out the little Tyrion and Daenerys at the top!) completed with these Lego versions of us that I found on Etsy. The cake tasted incredible, too!
We Had A Pop Punk Party!
When we were discussing our evening reception, we knew exactly who we wanted to DJ the party! Ben has run legendary pop punk club night PBR in Manchester for years and absolutely had to get him on board. On the night we danced along to everything from My Chemical Romance and Panic At The Disco to the Ghostbusters theme and Baby Got Back. No regrets, haha! Our guests were complete troopers (not least of all my dad, who partied HARD!) and we had so much fun.
Also, our first dance song wasn’t an obvious choice either (you can see us in action in the photo above!). We’re not into ~love songs~ per se, so wanted something with a bit of humour that’s still got some cracking lyrics and is super lively. Enter Dean Martin’s classic Ain’t That A Kick In The Head! OK, I know it sounds an odd choice, but listen again – the lyrics are perfect!
I’m so happy that we chose these elements for our day (along with many others!) and made it truly our own. How do you feel about traditional vs non-traditional wedding themes?