We Need To Talk About Blogging & Body Confidence

I’m not sure that this is going to be your average #BodyConfidence post, but I feel this topic needs to be talked about nonetheless. When I sat down to write this post, I knew I wanted to talk about body confidence in relation to the photos you will see accompanying my words, but I wasn’t sure quite how to approach it. I’ve decided to talk about a few observations I’ve made during my many years of blogging, specifically concerning the relationship between sharing aspects of my life online and how I feel about my apperance.

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The photos in this post were taken during our trip to the gorgeous Cala Mesquida in Majorca a couple of weeks ago. I’m going to be brutally honest, as I believe it’s the only way – heading down to the beach and taking these photos was bloody scary. Firstly, because I could feel countless pairs of eyes watching what Tiz and I were doing (if I didn’t really get the blogging/Instagram world, I might have raised an eyebrow too) and secondly, because it has literally been years since I walked around a beach in swimwear.

Here comes another dose of honesty…contrary to what these photos might suggest, I’m not feeling spectacularly awesome about my body right now. I’m also not feeling spectacularly badly about it either. I sometimes feel that in the blogging world, you’re pushed to fit into one box or another – flying the flag for body confidence or documenting your transformation journey. I have done both of these things over the years, but right now I feel like a bit of an inbetweener. Don’t we all at times?

body confidence and blogging relationship honest

I think I perhaps have a slightly different view of the blogging and body confidence subject – I spend a lot of time with fellow influencers, and have seen and heard a lot over the years. It’s so easy to present this incredibly sassy front online, but everyone has hang-ups about their appearance from time to time. I hate drama and definitely don’t want to go into any specific examples (even without naming names) but believe me when I say that not every Instagram photo you see is all it seems. With all the apps on the market these days, it takes mere seconds to pinch in your waist, plump up your lips, airbrush that spot or slim down your thighs. I’d never judge anyone for doing any of these things, but it’s therefore important to remember to take what you see on social media with a pinch of salt.

During my many years of blogging and vlogging, I’ve discussed my weight loss journey and love for health and fitness at length. You may have noticed that I haven’t been talking about those things lately, and to be perfectly blunt it’s because I haven’t been thinking about them all that much. My workout schedule has been on pause and I haven’t been putting a huge amount of thought into my diet, besides trying to eat plenty of fruit and veg. For my own happiness I do want to get back on track with exercise as it makes me feel great, but I don’t want it to take over my life. I have often had this all or nothing approach and I don’t want it to be like that anymore.

body confidence and blogging relationship honest

And that sort of brings me to my main point. In the blogging world it sometimes feels like we have to go borderline OTT on everything to stand out amongst the crowd – we have to be the most confidence, have the best fitness routine, visit the most glamorous places, take the best selfies with the most famous fellow influencers, go along to the most exclusive events…I could go on forever. It’s exhausting. Obviously, I would love everyone to feel incredible about themselves at all times and have awesome body confidence but sometimes it just doesn’t work out like that. And it’s not because you’ve gone completely the other way and now hate how you look, it’s just that your attention might be on other things. And that’s OK, too!

So you’re probably wondering why the heck I’m posting these photos if not to present a certain confident image of myself, right? Well, there are a few reasons. One of those reasons is because this Certified Mermaid Swimsuit from Boohoo is ridiculously cute and I wanted to show it to you. Another reason is because in that moment, on that day at the beach, I decided I’d had enough of over-analysing what I look like. This is how I look right now, so that’s what you’re getting from these photos. Sure, I posed in particular ways and chose these specific photos to share with you out of a pretty large batch, but that’s blogging right? And I do like these pictures! I think I look fine and I couldn’t resist taking advantage of the gorgeous location we found ourselves in – we didn’t even know the beach was this amazing when we booked our holiday, so we hit the jackpot really.

body confidence and blogging relationship honest

Here is my take-away message from this post. Not everything is black and white, and not everyone has it all figured out. We’re all under enough pressure as it is without feeling we have to be 100% body confident 100% of the time if we’re just feeling kind of…alright. Don’t forget that everyone is different, and that each post you read like this is just based on one person’s experience. I do wonder whether we all might feel a bit happier about ourselves if we just kind of got on with it, but perhaps that’s too simplistic a view to take. I’d love to know what you guys think!

Stay Creative,

Chyaz xox

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10 Comments

  1. June 8, 2017 / 11:28 am

    Love the positive message behind this. The swimsuit is lovely too.

    • Chyaz
      June 8, 2017 / 12:13 pm

      Thank you so much Latoya! x

  2. John S
    June 8, 2017 / 11:35 am

    Such a difficult subject. If you (not you personally) are really not happy with your weight, or you are not eating healthily or at least better balanced, then do something about. It really isn’t that difficult to change eating habits or to do some exercise. By far the best way to tackle this is to do it slowly over a long period. You don’t necessarily have to sign up to a gym, do more walking. Take the stairs, not the lift or escalator. Limit your takeaway meals or trips to the burger bar. Make small changes to your diet at first, experiment with different foods. Sun dried tomatoes when cut up will really improve the taste of a salad, for example. Add some grapes too. Your diet doesn’t have to be boring, but you have to think about it more, and keep it tasty !!

    • Chyaz
      June 8, 2017 / 12:13 pm

      I absolutely agree with your tips! I think sometimes it’s these little things that can make the biggest difference, rather than putting lots and lots of pressure on yourself 🙂 x

  3. June 8, 2017 / 12:53 pm

    I totally agree that we should all just get on with it. I am a true advocate for appreciating who you are and what you have. Yes, make some changes if you want to, but don’t do it for anyone else and don’t do it unless it is something you really want to do. I don’t wear make-up, I don’t do filters and show my spots and all in my photos. What others think of me is none of my business and if people don’t like me that is fine. If they do, that is fine too. Thanks for sharing your experience xx

    • Chyaz
      June 8, 2017 / 1:26 pm

      YES! I wholeheartedly agree with doing things for yourself in this respect, you’ve got to be happy with your own approach 🙂 x

  4. June 8, 2017 / 6:04 pm

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject…I think it’s good reminder for everyone, it’s easy to think everyone else has things all figured out in a kind of black or white way, so it’s nice to hear your thoughts.

    • Chyaz
      June 10, 2017 / 9:04 am

      Thank you so much! I’m really glad you enjoyed reading x

  5. June 9, 2017 / 6:01 am

    This post is awesome! And I completely agree. It’s so important to live in the moment with confidence 🙂

    • Chyaz
      June 10, 2017 / 9:05 am

      Thank you lovely lady! I think that’s spot on x

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